When your dog is very ill
As we enjoy our very special bonds with our pet, we must realize that
we are solely responsible for their well being. Sadly, there will
come a time when we are faced with making a life or death decision.
If your pet is so sick or so severely injured that he will never recover
his health the kindest thing you can do for him may be to have your
veterinarian help your pet to a painless, quiet and quick death through
euthanasia. This will never be a simple decision. Your family, friends
and veterinarian can help support you in this time.
It is so important to consider not only what is best for your pet,
but also for you and your family. If your pet cannot enjoy the things
he once did with you and/or is in a lot of pain it may be time for
this decision. Likewise, if your pet is terminally ill and/or the
cost of treatment (both emotional and financial) is beyond your
means, euthanasia may be a valid decision. As always, your veterinarian
can give you valuable insight into the best course for your pet.
If you do have to face this unfortunate situation, please recognize
that you are losing a friend and family member. Take time for a
special goodbye if possible. A last quiet night at home or a visit
alone with your pet at the animal hospital are certainly appropriate.
Be sure to include all of your family members, even your children.
You will also want to consider the care of your pet’s remains.
You may want to take him home and bury him. You may think about
cremation. Your veterinarian can help guide you through your options.
After your pet has died, it is natural for you to have feeling
of grief and sorrow. The grieving process applies to all family
members, including pets. We share such a special relationship with
them and it is natural to feel a loss. You may feel denial, anger,
guilt and depression. Some days will be harder than others. Grieving
is a personal process and everyone in your family will go through
it differently. Some people take longer than others to come to terms
with this loss. Please remember to be patient and help other family
members with their own acceptance. And talk openly about your feelings
and memories.
Certainly you will want to celebrate his life. Perhaps have a memorial
service; or you could plant a tree, flowers or a bush in his memory.
You can make a donation in his name to a foundation or shelter.
Taking time to create a scrapbook or photo album can often help
you reflect on happy memories and good time shared with your pet.
Death is natural-part of the cycle of life we all share. It cannot
be avoided and is often not easy to deal with or accept. However,
death can be met with compassion, grace and understanding. Here
are some helpful books on the subject of saying goodbye to our special
friends:
- Anderson M. Coping With The Sorrow On The Loss Of Your
Pet. 1996.
- Montgomery M., Montgomery H. Goodbye My Friend. 1991.
- Sife W., The Loss Of A Pet. 1993
- Rogers F. Mr. Rogers 1st Experience: When A Pet Dies. 1988***
- Sibbitt S., Oh, Where Has My Pet Gone? A Pet Loss Memory
Book, Ages 3 – 103. 1991.***
***These books are especially helpful for children.
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